January 10, 2020

Khadija Bint Khuwaylid

Allah has great love for Her
She was the wife of the Prophet and will be raised with Him
All the Mothers of the Believers went through great tests and struggles
Allah calls them our Mothers for the believers
Allah tells our Mothers that they are not like other people
Every thing that happened with them is unique to them
By studying their lives we appreciate the Prophet even more
Prophet was the best with His family
Prophet lived up to the standards that he preached
We get access to the Prophet in a different light
Most of the Prophets had multiple wives
Prophet was married to different women with different circumstances
It gives us guidance in our own marriages
Pure Men are for Pure Women
If you want a wife like Khadija then be a Man like Muhammad and vice versa
You should really know, love, and appreciate your mothers
We read these series with a lens of self development
Khadija was the best of the mothers of the believers
Khadija only lived to see the greatest persecution in Makkah
It was not a time of legislation yet in Khadija’s time
Four Women perfected their faith
- Khadija
- Fatima
- Maryam
- Asiya
Khadija’s family background
Khadija bint Khulaylid bin Asad bin bin Abdul Uzza bin Qussay bin Kilab
From Qussay bin Kilab Khadija and Muhammad’s ancestry goes all the way back to Ibrahim
Nawfal bin Asad is the uncle of Khadija
Waraqa bin Nawfal bin Asad who accepted Islam later on
Hakim bin Hizam was only child born in Kaaba
Now door to kaaba is raised before anyone can go in
Az Zubair bin Awam is related to Khadija
Az Zubair bin Awwam married Sahfihah bint Abdul Mutalib
Safihah bint Abdul Mutalib is Aunt of Muhammad more like sister

Khuwalid bin Asad

The chief of Banu Asad
He is very influencial
Comtemporary of Abdul Mutalib
He guarded the kaaba from desecration
He traveled with the grandfather of the Prophet to Yemen
He died in the battle of fajar
This battle was fought in sacred months
Even though you do not fight in the sacred months
Arabs traded in famous marketplace Souq ul Iqad
Prophet was 20 years old when it occurred
Prophet was not involved in the fighting
Their was an alliance between Quraesh and Qinanan
Khulaylid died in this battle
Khadija is left with her mother
Khadija’s mother is descendant of the one who brought idols to Makkah

Nawfal bin Asad

He tortured Zubair bin Awam
His own nephew
Waraqa his nephew was one of the people who abandoned idolatry
Four people abandoned idolatry
- Waraqa
- Zaid bin amr
- Usman bin Hurais
- Ubaidullah bin Jahsh
These people looked to other religions like Judaism and Christianity

Khadija bint Khulaylid

She was born in the year 555
15 years before the Prophet
Arabs named the children about a distinguishing feature
The name Khadija means premature
Like given birth early
She was extremely beautiful and educated
She was very well dressed
She never worshipped an idol
Abu Bakr was the same as well never worshipped an idol
Khadija was called the Pure one because she was known for being very modest and honest
Waraqa was expected to marry Khadija but he never bothered to get married
Waraqa became like a monk

First marriage of Khadija

Khadija married Abu Halah bin Zurrar and he had 2 sons from him
Hind the son of Khadija is from companions of Prophet
Hind saw the Prophet as young man and older
Hind son of Khadija lived until 36 years after
Abu Halah passed away

Second marriage of Khadija

She married Atiq
Atiq was very wealthy man and famous trader
They have two children

Khadija is widowed twice at age of 25
For 15 years she stays unmarried
Khadija inherited from very wealthy men
Her parents were very wealthy as well
Women would gather every year
There was a man from Madinah with Jewish background
He said O women of Makkah a Prophet is coming from amongst you called Ahmad
He said if you could marry him do so
Khadija wanted to become that person
Khadija receives many proposals but she turned down all of them until Prophet marries her
Merchants were free to trade whenever they liked Allah gave them that security from the dua of Ibrahim
They went to Sham in summer and Yemen in winter
Khadija would not travel herself and would send merchants to trade for her
Khadija hired several traders because each one would cheat her
She would take onto account that she would lose some money
She got very frustrated with the people
Then the Prophet comes in and works for Khadija
Prophet grew up in unfavorable poor economic circumstances
Prophet asked Abu Talib to send him to become a merchant even as a young man
Abu Talib was very protective of him
Prophet became a shepherd then a merchant
Prophet was shepherd for Khadija’s sister Halah
At 20 years old Prophet became a merchant and broker
Prophet had no experience leaving Makkah until later when he worked for Khadija
Khadija is looking for honesty and truthfulness
Then she finds out about the Prophet
Prophet is taking on goods for Khadija and she gives him double reward
Khadija gives Prophet her money and gives him the freedom to do what is best
It is a very risky proposal
Masara goes with Prophet
Masara is blown away with his manners
Masara goes with Prophet from Makkah to Sham and back
Prophet did everything being in service of Masara
Masara sees a cloud that was covering the Prophet
When they would take their naps under the tree then tree shades Prophet moving its branches
Monk comes to Masara and asks who is he
Monk says no man has ever rested under this tree except it is a Prophet
The tree is still here today in Jordan
Prophet abandoned the idols as well even before Prophethood
Masara says that the Prophet sold the merchandise and bought more merchandise from Shaam and made double the money
Khadija asks Masara about the Prophet
Masara tells her everything
Masara would pass away soon after that

Nafisa bint Ummayah

The close friend of Khadija
She visits Khadijah and asks her how she is
Khadijah talks about Prophet
She says I have never seen a man like this
Nafisa says you should marry him
As you have been single for a very long time, 15 years
Khadija was not interested in marriage
Nafisa goes to ask Prophet
Prophet was focused on making money and not on getting married
She asked him Why are you not married
Prophet said why don’t I recommend to you a great women
Prophet said who is
Nafisa said how about Khadija
Prophet says would she be interested in me
Nafisa said I don’t know let me go ask her
Nafisa tells Khadija that he is ready for marriage
Nafisa tells Prophet and Prophet tells Abu Talib
They get the marriage ready
During that time Khadija sees a dream
In the dream she sees the sun descending into her lap
She goes to Waraqa
Waraqa said that you are going to marry that awaited Prophet
Khadija’s uncle Amr bin Asad represented her in her marriage since her father had already passed away
Waraqa performed their marriage
Mahr was $500 dirhams
Abu Talib slaughtered a camel and fed all the people
Khadija was 40 Years old when she married the Prophet
The Prophet was 25 years old when he married Khadija

Prophet marries Khadija and moves in with Khadija

Khadija made the proposal and Prophet accepted

It was a big house in order to fit lots of children

Prophet was given wealth through Khadija

Prophet and Khadija worked together in business

Prophet was more free to do other works in society

The Children of Prophet and Khadija

Zainab
- Five years into their marriage
- First daughter
- When Prophet was 30 years
- Zainab marries Abu as bin rabi
- Zainab had Ali and Umamah
- Ali died early
- Umamah outlived her mother and married Ali bin abi talib
Ruquaya
- married Uthman
- Passed away in lifetime of prophet
Um Kulthoon
- married Uthman
- passed away in lifetime of prophet
Fatima
- Marries Ali bin abi Talib
- She has Hasan and Hussein
- The lineage continues
Qassim
- Was born before prophethood
- Died early
Abdullah
- Was born after prophethood
- He was nicknamed Tahir and Tayyeb
- Died early in birth

Prophet named the boys and Khadija named the girls

Ali Bin Abu Talib was also in house of Muhammad and Khadija

He was really young 1 or 2 years old

Zaid bin Haritha was also in house of Prophet who was 10 years younger than Prophet

Zaid was working as a slave for Khadija
Khadija gifted zaid to Muhammad
Prophet frees Zaid
But Zaid stays with Prophet
Zaid’s father came and found him
But Zaid decides to stay with Prophet
Zaid’s father says to him will you choose slavery over being with your family
Zaid responds I have seen something special about this Man and I will never leave him
After that Prophet adopted Zaid

Khadija fell in love with Prophet because of His good character

Prophet surpassed her expectancy after marriage

Prophet turned out to be better

Prophet respected and loved everyone Khadija loved

Halima Sahdia came to visit and Khadija gave her everything because she breastfed the prophet

Prophet sent gifts to people who loved Khadija or who Khadija loved after this incident

There was only one argument between Prophet and Khadija and maybe it was not even an argument

Only one time voices were raised in household of the Prophet
When the Prophet said O Khadija I swear by Allah I will never worship Al Lat and Al uzza
Khadija responds just leave them
Its ok
Because at that time Khadija asked Prophet to attend a shirk festival
The Prophet declined

Both Prophet and Khadija were involved in business and the upbringing of their children

Prophet’s status was elevated in society when Prophet was 35 years old the Kaaba was being re built and there was an argument on who would put the black stone back so they agreed who ever would enter the door next would put the stone back in and Prophet walked in and everyone said it is the trustworthy one we are pleased we are pleased and he suggested put the stone on a sheet and have each member from every tribe put it back in Kaaba so that everyone contributes

The Revelation

The revelation started in the form of good dreams in first 6 months
Then Prophet developed a love for solitude
Then Prophet started to go to Hira
Some women came to Khadija and said look you did all this for Prophet and now he leaves and goes to cave why are you putting up with this
Khadija ignores them and went up to hira to give Prophet his food
This was a 3 hour journey there and 3 hour back
She is a 55 year old women at this time
Prophet never asked her to do that
Prophet went to Khadija when revelation first came to him
She was his best friend
She was the person who reassured him
Prophet says to Khadija cover me and cover me
Prophets says I think I lost it
Khadija says Allah will never disgrace you
Khadija says you are good to your family
You take care of the guests and neighbors and orphans
Khadija suggests that Prophet goes to see Waraqa
Khadija said what would be confirmed by Quran a decade later
Allah says go ask the people if you do not know
Khadija also suggested this to Prophet before its revelation
Waraqa confirmed to Prophet that you are the coming Prophet
Waraqa died very shortly after that
Waraqa has 2 levels of Jannah for himself
Prophet saw Jibril in Human form then second time in Angelic form
Prophet went running to Khadija both times
Surah Mudathir was revealed when he was in Khadija’s arms
Surah Muadthir says go warn the people
The Prophet says you are the first person I am calling to Islam
Khadija says I am the first person to accept this message with no hesitation
Prophet makes wudu from same vessel as Khadija
The first prayer was tahhajjud prayer with Khadija
At Kaaba Prophet prayed with Khadija and Ali and Al Abbas saw them
Abdullah ibn Masud Also saw them praying
Khadija was with him and praying with him

Persecution of Islam

Khadija finances the dawah of Islam
She sold everything she had to help the Prophet
When the boycott happened she went with the Prophet
Because the boycott was on Banu Hashem not Banu Asad
Prophet is from Banu Hashem and Khadija is from Banu Asad
Khadija put herself in difficulty for the Prophet
Khadija had nothing but leaves to eat
Khadija never complained

Glad Tidings

Jibril met Khadija in street as a traveller
He said how are you
She said we are fine
No complaint
Then Jibril goes to Prophet and says give Khadija salaam from Allah
And give her my salaam and glad tidings of Jannah, a home made of pearls
Where there is no noise or fatigue or exhaustion
She said Allah is As-Salaam
Salaam to Jibril
Salaam and Love to Prophet
She received salaam from Allah and Jibril like Maryam did
She received glad tidings of a home in paradise like asiya did

Abu Talib passed away and Khadija died 3 days after Abu Talib
Prophet was married to Khadija for 25 years
She passes away at the age of 65 years old in Ramadan on the 10^th day
April 19^th 620
Prophet buried Khadija himself
Prophet stayed home and cried and Fatima stayed with him and cried as well
Fatima has in her mizan her father, mother, and all her siblings
Fatima was crying because she did not have any food to eat and at the loss of her mother
Prophet said to her aren’t you pleased that you are the leader of all the women of the world after Khadija and Maryam and Asiya
The Year of Grief
Then shortly after Allah called him up to Himself and gave him 5 daily salah and last 2 ayat of Surah al Baqarah the Isra wal Miraj
You can never replace what the prophet lost in Khadija
The story of Khadija continues after the death of Khadija until end of Prophets life
Abu Lahab went to harm the Prophet and when the Prophet opened the door he saw blood in the eyes of the Prophet from all the crying
Abu Lahab became mute and his heart moved
Abu Lahab said I will not harm you anymore then he started again after awhile
Prophet never forgot Khadija
Prophet would not leave his house until he remembered Khadija
He would sing her praises
Then one day Ayesha was overcome with jealousy
Every time Prophet would slaughter an animal he would say send it to the friends of Khadija
Ayesha said do you think of anyone else other than Khadija
She said for him to move on and stopping talking about her
Prophet’s face changed and he became very serious like when revelation would come
Prophet said Allah did not give me better than her and no one is better than her she believed in me when everyone else disbelieved in me she considered me truthfully when everyone else considered me a liar she spent her money on me when everyone else deprived me and Allah gave me children through her and no other women so don’t talk like that about Khadija
Ayesha said O Prophet Forgive me I will not say anything about Khadija after this day in a way you don’t like
All of these gems about Khadija are from Ayesha
The Jealousy of Ayesha towards Khadija was because Khadija was given the glad tidings of Jannah and the house in Paradise
Ayesha wanted that house in Paradise
Four years later Zainab daughter of prophet was married to Amr bin as and Amr was captured in battle
The people were saying to zainab look what happened our son is captured by your father
Zainab took her necklace and sent it to Prophet
When Prophet saw the necklace he went silent and started to cry after battle of badr
The necklace was the necklace Khadija gave to Zainab on the day of her wedding
Prophet said free her prisoner and return back the necklace to Zainab
Anytime Prophet was reminded of Khadija she occupied his life much of the time
Khadija never prayed salah or fasted or done hajj
She died before hijra
Prophet desired for her to see it
When Prophet came back to Makkah they asked the Prophet where do you want to go
They said pitch me a tent where Khadija is buried
Prophet visited her then

What distinguishes Khadija from everyone else?

The first of the believers
The first of Mothers of the Believers
The first person to receive the glad tidings of Jannah
The first person to be greeted by Allah and Jibril
The first person to worship Allah with the Prophet
The first person to hear the Quran

This is our Mother Khadija bint Khuwaylid

May Allah be pleased with her and May Allah join us with her in that beautiful home of pearls in Jannah

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